I read something extremely troubling in our local newspaper a couple of days ago, and decided it was definitely something I should share with all of you.
A young girl of only 13 years died very suddenly last week. She lived in Guam with her family, but had previously resided in Colorado, as well as Missouri, Texas, Virginia, Connecticut and Georgia. She has family who live here where I do, which is why her obituary appeared in our newspaper.
I am always deeply, deeply saddened when I read of a youngster’s death, as I’m sure you are, as well. As anyone would, I wondered why this tragedy occurred. I thought perhaps it had been a car accident or she had been ill, but then at the very bottom of the obituary I saw a link to a web site where one can make a donation in her memory. The site is called The DB Foundation. In case you’re wondering, the “DB” in the title stands for “Dangerous Behaviors”. It is a web site entirely dedicated to Dangerous Adolescent Behavior Education. The page to which the link I clicked in her obit took me was entitled “Choking Game ~ Pass Out Game ~ Fainting Game ~ Black Out”. You can immediately deduce from the title what this poor girl’s cause of death was. I continued reading the page and became really scared by what I was reading:
Unaware of the risks - Kids think The Choking Game is ’safe’ and have been heard saying “It’s just passing out! Noone ever dies from Passing out.”
Only 25% of parents know about The Choking Game - 75% of children DO
I had no idea. Not that the game existed, but that kids die from it. I was immediately taken back to my elementary school days when the newest “cool” thing to do was to make yourself pass out. And believe me, guys, that was a long time ago! Evidently this thing has been around for quite some time. Even back then it seemed like everyone was doing it. So, one day after school I went across the street to the park with some of my friends, and we watched as some other kids did this cool new “thing”. I’m not going to describe here the manner in which it was done, even though I know what they were doing was significantly different than how and why it’s done today, but it had the same dangerous result. I don’t want any other kid to be as stupid as we were. Yes, “we”. I was stupid enough to actually do it. I made myself pass out, and I hit the ground HARD. When I came to, I didn’t immediately realize what was going on or where I was, but when I regained my senses I realized very quickly that what I had done was enormously reckless and stupid. I never did it again. I had no idea until I visited the web site listed in that poor girl’s obituary that children die all the time from this activity. It sent chills down my spine.
I immediately felt compelled to blog about this activity and its dangers so that we, as parents, can open up a dialog with our kids about it and let them know how very dangerous it is. I know for a fact that when we were doing it all those many years ago, parents had NO idea it was going on. And keep in mind that we were doing it directly across the street from the school, right out in the open! Not ONE person said anything to us about it or even asked what we were doing! I feel very stupid for having done it, but also very lucky for not having had anything bad happen to me as a result of that stupidity. Mostly, though, I feel an urgency to get the word out there into the world — yes, it’s definitely a global thing, considering she died in Guam — so that no other innocent young people tragically die from an activity they think is fun and cool and simply the “new thing” to do.
Please, talk to your kids. Tell them to talk to their friends. Blog about it. Tell your friends and fellow parents and tell them to tell their friends. You could be saving someone’s life!
Choking Game, Pass Out Game, Fainting Game, Black Out Game, The DB Foundation
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